Parents also begin to fear their own children, who risk sending them to prison. This establishes relationships based on distrust, further driving people apart and disabling the ability to form social bonds. This is best depicted in the scene where Winston visits his neighbors, the Parsons. Mrs. Parsons is visibly shaken the entire time, while her children keep an eye on their conversation. It seems ridiculous to fear children, especially her own children, but since the children have had their father thrown into prison, it makes sense that Mrs. Parsons would feel scared and distant from her children. Since each person feels alone and alienated under the watchful eye of Big Brother, they have no choice but to build the only relationship and bond possible, with that of their oppressor. The awareness that the thought police are watching citizens' every move influences the masses towards a "norm" of constant state of fear and discipline that results in maximum loyalty to Big Brother. Furthermore, because people have no idea when they are being watched, they learn to behave as if they are always under scrutiny. This turns people into their own forms of panoptic gazing, controlling their thoughts and actions by fear of possible surveillance. Foucault defines it as “becoming bearers of our own oppression”. In addition to establishing a norm of behavior, the panoptic gaze and the thought police also exert deadly force on those who exhibit what they consider to be abnormal behavior. When Winston and a woman named Julia from his workplace commit the crime of falling in love and starting a relationship as an act of rebellion, the thought police capture them and take them to the Ministry of Love. Ironically here, they are tortured until there are no feelings of love or betrayal left.