In The Color of Water, author James McBride writes a tribute to the life of his mother, Ruth McBride. Ruth was born Rachel Shilsky, a Polish Jew, who immigrated to America soon after birth. As an adult she moved to New York City, leaving her family and faith behind. In New York Ruth married a black minister and founded the all-black New Brown Memorial Baptist Church in her Red Hook living room. Twice widowed and struggling with life's adversities and the racism of the times, Ruth's determination, drive and discipline allow her to raise her twelve children. Everyone has a self-concept, “what we know and believe about ourselves” (Myers 2015, p. 19), these self-concepts create the most important part of ourselves, our self. While there are many aspects of our personality that create our self-concept, we don't show them all to everyone. The self we show to the world, the way we interact with others, the way others see us, is our social self. Our self-concept may be different from our social self. As a boy James saw his mother as strange, he never socialized with the neighbors and his past was a complete mystery. He felt that she was completely unaware of what the world thought of her and the danger she was in from people who hated her just because she was white. One reason is because theirs was a romantic love. According to Sternberg's theory of love, love is made up of three components: intimacy, passion and commitment. Sternberg identifies different types of love, which can be described as different combinations of these three elements (Myers 2015). Romantic love consists of a combination of the intimate and passionate components of love, romantic lovers are physically attracted to each other and share an emotional bond but lack commitment. This lack of commitment becomes very evident when Ruth finds out that Peter is going to marry another girl he has had