They don't trust you because you committed a sin that hurt them. John had an affair with Abigail Williams, he cheated on his wife and Elizabeth doesn't really trust him even though he regretted it. “ELIZABETH, reasonably: John, have you ever shown her any contempt? He may not surpass you in church, but you will blush... Proctor - I might blush for my sin. ELIZABETH: I think he sees another meaning in that blush. Proctor: And what do you see? What do you see, Elizabeth? ELIZABETH (conceding): I think you're a little ashamed, because I'm there, and she's so close. PROCTOR When will you know me, woman? If I were made of stone I would have broken with shame in these seven months! ELIZABETH: Then go tell her she's a whore. Whatever promise I can sense... break it, John, break it. (Miller 59).” In “When Will You Know Me, Woman? If I were made of stone I would have broken with shame in these seven months!” John is really frustrated by his wife's suspicions of him and Abigail's affair. He lives in his sin and wishes this had never happened before. This shows that John is trapped in his own sin, unable to forgive himself and also unable to deal with his infidelity to his wife, so there is no trust between him and Elizabeth. He really suffers for his sin, he wants to have trust, especially from the person he loves most. If the people closest to us don't believe us, then who else will ever trust us again. It is painful not to trust anyone, especially when visiting loved ones, because of you