Everyone derives satisfaction and happiness from getting what they want, but they also derive pain from what an individual has earned. It's similar with love, when people think about having a relationship, the majority will see it optimistically. However, that's not entirely fair; sometimes they will end up giving up something they have valued for a long time. We can find two excellent examples in the stories of “Marriage is a private affair” and “Love must not be forgotten”. The main characters in both stories struggle with marriage problems and try to deal with themselves. In one story, it is the son who chooses to marry the one he loves, having been disowned by his father. The other story is the opposite; the mother follows the traditional marriage, ending up losing her true love. The story "Marriage is a private affair" introduces a conflict between the traditional mentality and the modern mentality. The father, Okeke, is faithful to tradition and supports arranged marriage, but the son, Nnaemeka, wants to marry who he loves. This, therefore, leads to an argument within the family with two opposing mindsets. This is the main problem that occurred in the story. “'Marriage today is different…' (Nnaemeka) 'Look son,' his father interrupted, 'nothing is different. What is sought in a wife is good character and Christian education"" (Achebe, 190). The quote shows two different views on marriage. The father plans for his son to marry Ugoye, but the son loves Nene. As a response to the conflict between his son and his father, Nnaemeka decides to follow his heart, marrying Nene. For choosing this path, Nnaemeka faces a great circumstance. “'I owe it to you, my son, as a duty to show you what is right... a means of paper... to marry that person. Marriage is not only an agreement between families, but also an agreement between individuals. If one is not happy in marriage, one will end up like the mother in the story “Love Must Not Be Forgotten”. At least, I would feel that way and I don't want to end up regretting it. It is clear that both stories, "Marriage is a private affair" and "Love must not be forgotten", contain conflicts between tradition and modernized mentality. sets. Both protagonists gain and lose from marriage. Nnaemeka gets her true love, but loses the strong relationship with her father; while the mother loses her true love due to traditional mindset, and learns a lesson from it. Both stories have a similar moral: wait for the right one and marry someone you love. Brigitte Nicole once said, “If you don't follow your heart, you might spend the rest of your wishes.”