Horney believes that the drive to grow psychologically and reach one's potential is a fundamental human motive and to do this you need to know your place or "role" " for your work. gender to fit into society. David was denied such acceptance by growing up on different sides of the gender binary. He was thrown into a childhood of confusion and disappointment without ever feeling comfortable. People are often bullied and ostracized if they don't fit into social norms, and it can also make them feel unfit to find a partner and have a healthy or contented relationship.