It's okay to want what you want, but you have to let go of that negative self-talk pattern of "I have to have X, you're bad and I'm going to punish you." The moment you start demanding you have your way and then blaming them, you become the problem. You become part of what is wrong with the system. Anger is normal. Everyone gets angry sometimes, but you don't want to live there. How do you do it? When you notice that your frustration is increasing, when you really want something to happen and it doesn't go the way you want, at that precise moment you have to focus more on the solution instead of the problem. Just then, you get into the pattern. Maybe there is something you can do to fix the situation. If there is, take action. If it isn't there, then you need to get over it now and focus on the solution. Go ahead. It's your choice! You need to control that negative self-talk, get a little more brain power so you can transform the way you handle things. You have to move forward in a way that's good for you. You need to take care of yourself and getting angry is not to your advantage. It throws you out of the game, slows you down from wherever you want